The new year is almost upon us. It’s that time of year when people start thinking about their new year’s resolutions.
A new year’s resolution is about making the decision to achieve a personal goal or breaking a habit. Whether it’s to take control of your life, lose weight, get physically or mentally fit and healthy, stop smoking, start a new career – the list of possibilities goes on.
But why does this seem to only happen at new year?
With the upcoming new year approaching, it’s a time of reflection over the past year and can often highlight struggles or difficulties that we want to change. With the new year looming, it’s the perfect chance to take action and make a new year’s resolution to change this aspect of your life.
However, unfortunately, according to an article written by US News & World Report, a staggering 80% of people fail their new year’s resolutions by February! Despite good intentions, the reasons for this can vary. Whether its expecting immediate results, lack of time, motivation, funds, or maybe just bad timing.
And this is why you shouldn’t wait until the new year to make a change!
The decision to make a change to your life or your habits has to be at the right time for you. To achieve the results you want, you need to have the motivation to succeed and this only comes when the timing is right. Don’t fall foul of the idea of setting a new year’s resolution when the timing isn’t for you. You’ll unfortunately and inevitably fail and will feel disappointed with yourself. This then can make it harder to try again.
So instead of making a new year’s resolution this year, I want you to start a new year’s revolution
This new year, instead of thinking about all of the things you wish you are doing or are better at, start by noticing what is already good about you and your life.
Either in your mind or on paper, make a list of the positive things in your life and start to appreciate what you have. There is always something that you do well, it may be that you just don’t pay it much attention. Even if you are facing difficulties, there is always something that picks you up and keeps you going
Maybe it’s a family member, friend or a pet. Something you’ve achieved in your life that keeps you going. Something that you’re good at. Could it be something you worked hard to get, a special gift for yourself or even just having your own home?
Appreciate even the little things that keep you going and make you unique.
When you start the process of change by feeling good about yourself and coming from a place of accomplishment and positivity, then change becomes much easier.
When the timing is right…
Once the timing to make a change is right for you, then set clear goals and work out exactly how you are going to achieve the thing you want to change. Remember it’s much better to focus on one thing and do it well than to focus on lots of things and not achieve any of them. Research how you are going to make the changes happen and what support or resources you need.
Often we need some form of support or accountability from another person. If you want to lose weight, as an example, it might be you look into using a personal trainer. The best way to achieve the results you are after is finding the right person FOR YOU. You need to feel a connection with them to help support and motivate you to make a change.
The same goes for therapists. If you are looking at ways to help with symptoms of ADHD, maybe you want to take control of the feelings of anxiety, stress and overwhelm, you need to find the right methods and person to help support you get there.
Knowing when is the right time
I totally get that it is difficult knowing when the right time is. So, here are a few signs which could indicate you need to focus first on building up your motivation and positivity.
- You’re living in the past
- You dream about ‘someday’
- You’re living in fear
- You don’t like the person you are/you have become
- You’re feeling stuck
- You feel numb
- You’ve lost passion for life
- You’re burnt out
It’s not to say that you can’t make a change when you feel this way, it may just be harder. When we allow ourselves to feel a sense of positivity and pride in our achievements then change becomes easy.
Change can be a scary thing, especially if we are living with the fear of the unknown or the frustrations of past attempts. But change is a part of life and can often lead to bigger and better things. It takes you out of your comfort zone but by doing so, can open you up to new and better experiences.
If you want to make a change next year, or just want to find acceptance, tranquillity, a way of dealing with or coping with symptoms of ADHD, then why not book in for a consultation assessment with me. Being a fellow ADHDer I can work with you to understand your symptoms, to find acceptance and tailor your treatment to work for you. You can book your appointment directly here. Or if you have any questions, contact me to find out more.