Do you struggle to make decisions in life? Whether it’s making better choices for yourself, your love life, diet, career. It’s one of the challenges that comes with having adult ADHD. The worry of whether you’re making the right choice. The pressure to make a decision and how that decision is going to affect you.
When it comes to making decisions, our ADHD minds can sometimes go into overdrive. Overthinking and assessing what can sometimes be the simplest of decisions. So, when it comes to making some big and potentially life changing decisions, it’s going to leave our heads spinning and bring us out in a cold sweat.
Here are some ways on how to make good decisions when you have ADHD.
Weigh up the pros and cons
When you start analysing the pros and cons of something, you can often find the answer staring you straight in the face. It also gives your brain a chance to slow down, to stop and think, seeing it down on paper. It also helps to stall our impulsiveness of making a decision without much thought.
If the pros and cons list leaves you feeling more torn and confused, look at prioritising what is important to you and meets your own goals and values.
Maybe you’re looking to move to another county which means you’ll be away from family and friends. But it means you’ll have better career prospects, a better work/life balance, a better way of life.
What matters to you?
What’s more important?
Think about the bigger picture
Using the example above of moving home; focus on the bigger picture rather than the initial period of should we/shouldn’t we. Think longer-term.
Where do you envision yourself in a year? Two years, five years or even ten?
Where are you?
What are you doing?
How do you feel?
Set yourself a deadline
Our brains are wired to deal with things that are urgent, things happening right now. So rather than it just being an idea that keeps popping up into your head, set yourself a deadline. Whether it’s to do some research into making a decision or even a deadline to actually reach a decision. It will help keep you focused and more likely to take action.
Talk to someone you trust
Only you can make the decision but seeking counsel from a close family member or friend can really help. Even just talking through the idea might spark the decision for you. If not, they can help you to evaluate, give you advice and guidance to help you into making a decision.
Trust your gut instincts?
This gut feeling that we have when something feels really wrong/right is actually coming from our brains. Your job is to evaluate whether your gut feeling is helping you and guiding you into making the right choice. Or whether it’s instinctively trying to protect you and stopping you.
Avoid making decisions on impulse
Sometimes our impulsiveness is a good thing and can help us to take action. But it can also backfire. So, rather than jumping into something feet first, evaluate and try out some of the techniques above before acting on impulse.
Notice the “tone” of the thoughts around your decision.
Sometimes your thinking can help give you clues as to whether a decision is right for you or not. If your thoughts are focused on the reasons why you can’t do the other option, rather than why the option you have chosen is a good one, then it might not be the right decision.
E.g. Notice the difference between “I want this promotion because I think I’ll enjoy the job” and “I have to go for the promotion because if I don’t apply people will think I’m lazy”.
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